Reading other books gave me an insight into what I wanted to add. In all the other books that I read they said condoms were used but for us the parties and couples we met didn't use them for the most part.
Both men and women didn't like them and so decided not to use any. I was given lots of reasons why but the main one was the feel. Some people were allergic but most were not.
It seemed to be a fatalist look. If I don't think about it, then I won't get and STD and these people were in the over 40 group.
For my partner and I we chose not to use them. Was that a stupid move, of course it was and I could lie here and say that I was allergic to the rubber but what it really was for me a conscious decision not too. Mainly because of my age. I have had children and want no more, I was also with my last partner and knew it. He made the choice for feel. We made the decision together and we both knew that just one person could have given us an STD.
Also we found out that most people will put down in their profiles that they are disease free and want the same. Don't believe that, Please. For the most part it isn't true. They may be disease free at that moment but if you don't get tested on a regular bases then you don't know for sure. If you require someone that is disease free then you're going to have to ask them for a paper to prove it.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Monday, April 4, 2011
How I came to write a swingers book
My partner and I are swingers and one day after a party I had this bright idea that he should write a book (he is a published writer) about the swinging lifestyle.
He didn't want to do it then and told me I should give it a try, well I really didn't want to, I am not a writer. I can type yes, I can do research, I can not spell well (thank god for spell check) and I don't know a thing about punctuation, but he kept telling me to give it a try, so finally I did.
I asked one of the hostesses from a party we frequent to collaborate with me and she accepted but then dropped out after a couple of months but by then I was on a roll. I loved the researching, and the idea's were just flowing out of me.
My partner and I bought some swingers books and looked through them to see what they had written and found everyone of them lacking and slightly skewed in favor of swinging and really didn't broach the ins and outs of The Lifestyle, so that is what I decided I should do, tell the truth.
I decided that my book should have all the ins and outs and be as in depth as possible without my putting to much of a swing (pun intended) in favor or against. It is informative and to the point but I am sure that I have forgotten to add things, and that some others might have idea's so this blog was started.
The Ins and Outs of the Swinging Lifestyle
And In Depth How To Guide
Was started a few years ago, put on a shelf to rest for a few months then re-started then stopped and started yet again until now.
You can find the book at: Amazon and Smashwords.
He didn't want to do it then and told me I should give it a try, well I really didn't want to, I am not a writer. I can type yes, I can do research, I can not spell well (thank god for spell check) and I don't know a thing about punctuation, but he kept telling me to give it a try, so finally I did.
I asked one of the hostesses from a party we frequent to collaborate with me and she accepted but then dropped out after a couple of months but by then I was on a roll. I loved the researching, and the idea's were just flowing out of me.
My partner and I bought some swingers books and looked through them to see what they had written and found everyone of them lacking and slightly skewed in favor of swinging and really didn't broach the ins and outs of The Lifestyle, so that is what I decided I should do, tell the truth.
I decided that my book should have all the ins and outs and be as in depth as possible without my putting to much of a swing (pun intended) in favor or against. It is informative and to the point but I am sure that I have forgotten to add things, and that some others might have idea's so this blog was started.
The Ins and Outs of the Swinging Lifestyle
And In Depth How To Guide
Was started a few years ago, put on a shelf to rest for a few months then re-started then stopped and started yet again until now.
You can find the book at: Amazon and Smashwords.
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